Was at a wake yesterday. It been so long since I last saw my friend and some of our ex sec sch friends. I don’t know why we are doing some catching up at someone’s wake, but that seems to be it.
The topic became married or not married, baby or no baby, where you working at, the very surface topics which others just want to have a quick updates.
Then someone commented saying that there is no urgency for him to settle down because MAN has no rush for that. Implying that age imposes no threat to a man and I can’t help it to think otherwise. So I rebutted his claim by saying that nowadays woman and man are the same, there is no rush for a marriage unless they find the right one to marry. A marriage should not be determined by numbers.
I can’t help to wonder if that is the mentally of the ppl here? Rushing to get marry because age is catching up and hurriedly get married and ended up divorcing? Are we constantly looking at short term solution rather than long term? Does marriage taste more like instant noodles now?
Time has changed. I have and am coming across more and more ladies who feel that there is no “urgency” unless they really found someone they really want to tie knot with. In this generation and society that we are living in, why would someone still feels that “男人不急，女人才急”
There are women who choose to be single because they不急 to find a man but rather spend their time and youth to strive at career or rather do more charity work all over the world.
There are men who rush women into marriage too! Those buying brides from overseas are good examples. Most of these men are those who could not meet the expectations from the local women, or they just need a younger woman who are fertile enough to give them a heir (sounds like a farmer breeding sow for piglets), or they just need a lowly educated submissive woman to feed their ego, whom some of these women only know how to lie on the bed and spread their legs and take care of children and do housework and only say YES to husband. Arent these men 很急, that they have to resort to courier women from overseas and use MONEY to buy these women to be their wives?
As the educational level became on par or even surpass men, some women do not see the need for a marriage and to be “tied down” as well. So what makes you guys think that “女人才急, 男人不急”. Women in the past wants to settle early for dependent, now that modern women who are becoming more and more financially independent and capable, they do not take monetary as an attraction to them to rush into a marriage. But rather finding someone whom they really feels worth being with and are able to emotionally connect is more important.
Things which men use to complain about women in a marriage in the past, women these days are starting to complain the same thing about men as well. And more and more women agree or even initiate divorce too.
I ever asked one colleague of mine why didn’t she settle down on her younger days? She replied “很烦!” Singlehood means freedom to her. She is contented with just freedom, her financial freedom, no one to vie her flat.
So while you are choosing women, women are also choosing you too! And the reason why you are still single may be because you don’t even fit into the category that is worth considering to give you a chance. So men, wake up your idea!
If ever a woman is very 急, it would be very 尿急！
女人不应该不急， 男人也不应该不急， 政府才应该急！
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