Experiencing too much from the virtual world? How much time was spend surfing your facebook, friendster, wholivesnearyou and msn everyday? How much of these online virtual homepages affected your daily read world? How much of those online pokes, online smiles, online hugs, online flirts be compared to just one that may happen in the real world, as in really happen to you? You may grow a database of a 100, 200 or 300, even 1000 ppl (friends they called it) linked to you. But how many have you really meet up, chat up, drown your sorrows or share happiness with? Then how can we build up on our relationship in the real world when we always have a lazy (easier) way out through the virtual world?
Is the virtual world helping to keep us together? Or actually alienated us? Was relationship built on strong foundation thru virtual world? How many times you get upset when you see your gf/bf online flirting with others (or someone sends her/him a flirt), which so ever guy/girl hugged/kissed her/him in facebook. How many unhappiness this resulted in the real world?
How many self indulge of posting updated pics to show to the many out there? How many messages received from strangers asking to be friends with you just to feed your ego and self worthiness thinking that is the way? And how many seriously became a real friend?
Is the virtual world really for us? With that, I maybe shutting down my Friendster/facebook maybe my msn also. Nothing beats more than a real hug or face to face talk.
This conclusion came after watching Xia Xue's BFF video last night and receiving a call this morning from a long lost contacted friend for three years. He used to call me whenever he can or chatted till late nights till I started to aviod answering his calls thinking that its a dread to talk and talk and talk and he gave up in the end. Just last year, I deleted him from my phonebook and a few other friends whom I seldom even sent a sms greeting and thought no one will remember me. Then he proved me wrong. I was remembered. And besides me, he also try keeping in contact with the ex SIM study grp. We sort of did some updates to each other and I am really sorry to hear the miscarriage else he would have been a father now.
After hanging up the call, I felt so ashamed of myself. I thought of how convenient it was at that moment to press "delete" his number in contrast with how he made an effort to retain mine in his phonebook even after not contacting each other for 3 years. Then it dawn on me that I actually have not been making efforts to build up on those relationships around me and instead, have been spending too much time looking for new friendships in the virtual world.
"stop seeking the unknown and cherish what you already have" and this is just what I will be doing.
Bye bye my virtual world... :)
4 comments:
Hi,
I have been following your blog on and off. Only corresponded once with you about the cards that you used to make for sale.
Reading this post... you have grown!! You are not only thinking from your point of view... but also from that of others as well.
I find all these social websites actually do serve their functions in the sense that they do allow you to keep in contact with old friends or old schoolmates. And the blogsites do allow people to keep up to date with what you have been doing.(Provided they bother to read it.) Like when you started painting and posted pictures of your paintings on your blog, and go about describing your paintings... that is sometimes more interesting than some of your ramblings... ;p
But I do agree that some people do spend too much time on the internet.
As for deleting of contacts... I do that too... But not because I have not contacted that person for a long time. I usually delete them only if after messaging them a few times, I still don't get any reply. Either they have changed their numbers without informing you, or they simply do not want to reply you. In both cases I think they have no wish to continue their friendship with you. These people... I delete.
LingFeng
no wonder, suddenly, u not on my frenster anymore. But do continue the blog if u can. I like to see ur paintings although I dun see much of them these days.
hi LingFeng! Thank you for dropping by my humble blog as and when.. I will find time to do my paintings, currently attracted to photography tho.
And I find your comment do make sense. Seeing it in another viewpoint, these webbies do help to keep me updated of close friends' activities.
Therefore, I wasnt able to shut down my friendster nor facebk but I did a massive deletion of names.
Hi Noah!
Yeah..........didnt know you are still reading my blog...LOL!
Glad you do drop by still.. :)
I will still be updating my blog cos I guess, I got too much to share.... :)
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