The passing 13th and the arrival of the 14th

The only “bad” thing that could have happened to me on the 13th was my muddle-headedness to have left my mobile phone in my friend’s car after lunching together. Before I even realize about it, he is already on his way, speeding back to Loyang from Jurong. But being phone-less also means uncontactable which means, freedom too! Thank god he was able to return my phone back to me late in the night the same day knowing that I may go psychotic without my companion (phone).

With Friday the 13th safely passed when the clock struck 12, welcome to the 14th Feb 2009. This is the day when the guys are busy deciding what flowers to give while the girls will be thinking if he will be getting me any bouquet? This is the day when I will walk in the street and see that typical kind of look on the women faces.

Once, I was walking in the shopping mall. Walking towards me was a young couple, the girl as usual, holding a bouquet of flower in an upright position as if it’s a trophy she has won in the National Youth Olympics. The bouquet, was about the size of less than a height of 25 cm maybe, and about three roses. Something like what a bride will be holding during her march in. This young lady walked passed and I looked at her (natural reaction ma, when someone is walking toward the opposite direction). Her body language gave off a message that seems to say “See lady! I got flower you dun have! Hrmph!” Like what my colleague said to me recently, this is the day where the girls with flowers walking with hong (“air”, light feeted), while the married or single ones lie their heads low low.

On a separate occasion, I once dine n a restaurant and somehow, my date got me a bouquet and it was sent directly to the restaurant, nicely placed on the table before we arrived. The moment we walked in, there were attention given from the other diners, majority are couples (becos that is another vday). I looked at the other female diners, they looked back. My body language said to them “I am not here to hao lian, I dun know there is such an arrangement”. The other female diners seemed to reply with their body language saying “what is the big deal? The flowers are so ugly”, else some looked at the date with disgruntle.

Frankly speaking, I raise both my hands to agree that yes I love receiving flowers. But I have my criteria over the type of bouquet I receive. Some ppl may think, “Wha liow! got flower good enough, you are still so fussy over it?” Well, it’s not like something you get it every day and maybe that’s why I am so particular about it.

Personally, I felt embarassed for the girls who got miniature size bouquet and walked around the whole orchard the whole day holding that pathetic bouquet. It looked bad on the guy, and makes the girl looked “easily contented”. But on the other hand, some couples are seriously contented! Its just a gesture, at least he got me a bouquet and not just pluck that fern leaves from his neighbor’s flower pot!

This is the day when the guy ponders over his wallet, and trying hard not to spoil the day by disappointing his date. Well, a logical person will think that why do we have to spend so much money on a bouquet of flowers which withers in the next few days? Or the guy will at least try to convince his date on his point of view. The money could have been used more wisely on something that is longer lasting!

But seriously, what is the purpose of sending a bouquet? It is not money spent for something that withers a few days later, its money spent to bring smile on her face which many says money cannot buy happiness, its money spent to bring romance which many says money cant bring love, its money spend to give you the ambience which many will say money cannot buy you blissfulness. It is money spent to buy memories that perhaps last a life time. So men, why be such a miser over this little investment which last a lifetime? Or you rather hear her grumbles everyday or complaining to her closest gal friend or maybe her grandchildren that you got her no flower at all from the 1st day she knew you?

I remember back in my sec sch days, a classmate of mine bought me a bouquet of roses (I think there were pink, eight in total) but he was away overseas so he got another classmate of ours to pass it to me in the canteen right in front of any others who were there at that time. A bouquet of flowers back then could be quite a sum of money for a sec two student. I appreciated his effort and till this day, whenever I receive flowers from my dates or anyone, I will always recall back about what happen during my sec sch days. It is really a life time memory, something which I can never forget. Its really not just something that withers after a week and thats all.

I love receiving flowers but aint a show off, exhibiting mine, walking ard the whole of Singapore with it. If you got me one big bouquet, please put inside a paper bag. I will admire it when I reach home till it withers. If you want to send me a bouquet, to my home address please. Its embarrassing enough to receive the bouquet right in front of your colleagues, then carrying that bouquet back home.


Something smaller than a height of 30cm is a small bouquet to me. The colors of the wrappers are impt. The colors and type of flowers are impt. Colors should either be red or white only. Wrapper should be white or red or something that really complement the flowers, not pink flowers with orange wrappers or blue flowers with yellow wrappers. It looks horrible! Maybe the florist is color blind if that happens.

And yes I should be contented if someone else gave me some bouquets, but that doesn’t mean I should settle with something less than my expectations or I do not like receiving.

For the guys out there, if you can’t afford, then don’t buy any. If you wanna give, give something the girl likes and not what you think will burn a hole in your pocket and therefore you chose something small just to get away with a win-win situation. Anyway, you dun get burn like that everyday. Its only on Vday. So enjoy!

But I guess the person who enjoy the most on this day will be the florist shops and restaurants, happily counting money while the couples walk hand in hand around and around the malls….


Lastly, yes, I am an online exhibitionist, well! I don’t get to do that everyday what! So here’s what I received this morning......LOL!!

Happy loving Vday everyone! Hope everyday is a Vday for the couples out there! :)