Have you ever look back at the friendships you have? I have however, recently looked back at the couple of friendships around me.
Being a friend to someone I hold close to, I am the sort who will just do sometimes even more than within my means to extend a helping hand whenever they are in trouble or need a listening ear. Some friends and family menbers have advised or told me to help ppl only within my means but I don know why, whenever someone comes to me, I feel that they must have no one else to turn to. If they have turned to me, they must have really needed some help.
I always believe that having the capability to help others is a blessing than being the one receiving help everytime. Probably becos I have ever experience how it felt when I desperately needed help and someone was there to help without a second thought. I can never forget how relieved I felt at that instant and how gratitude I was.
Friends around me, I have did my part, to put them priority whenever they need to grumble or to vent their frustrations or when they needed help from me, even if it means I am not able to, I will source help from others in order to solve his/her problem.
But then again, while I look back, I realised, whenever I did a favor, a very tiny little favor from others, my request for their help, becomes "If its convenient, I dun mind doing for you".
How many times I have forgo my personal self or take out the time and effort to be there for someone or to help them when they needed help. How many times I faced with attitudes that sort of making me realise that humans are still humans, not every one really mean cherishing friendship and knows the meaning of "helping a friend in need".
How sad that makes me.
Ppl just wont put their friends in need as priority but themselves and they themselves as prority even during that instant when a close friend turn to them for help.
Should I continue to be there and put others as priority still? I am not by default always been there for you, I have many times put in that effort just to bring out the best in you or to go to you whenever you needed someone there.
But then, I shouldnt have thought that you will also do the same.
Friends? This word sound so foreign to me now.
5 comments:
That was exactly how I thought too at one point of my life. Overtime you'd start to do some sorting out of friends... those who shares similiar thoughts as you. It's then you will have those true friends and keep them for life.
It's not the quantity. It's the quality. =)
yes and good friend just asked me to treat them dinner. wow i thought i just got a promotion. People just thought of the good 5 star hotels i am going to stay in, the allowance that i will get, and machiam i am away on holidays, so nice can take plane, exotic location....
I have learnt how to reply, " hell yeah it sure is great. When is your turn my friend?"
Eh.. so are these GOOD friends to begin with? I'm very selective with people I term as 'Good' Friend. Many of these appear only when you have something valuable to THEM. Make friends with your EYES, EARS and HEART open!
Oh yes, by the way, when can I also have my regular dose of fresh goat milk? Please deliver it to Tanglin. Thank you~~~~~~~
You are too much of a strong woman to want goat milk :) Anlene will be gooD next time though...
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