I read with sadness about the Ang Mo Kio suicide case that has became the talk of the town recently and I wonder why a marriage could turn out to be in this state at the end of the day? A happy family portrait that now haunts. Whether was there a third party involved or whether the relationship between the husband and wife was already in bad state. The ones who have paid for the price were the two young children whom should not be denied with the rights to live. The selfish-ness from both parents resulted in this tragedy or was it love?
How would one even have thought that happiness could just end with the blink of an eye? How many misinterpreted that happiness means putting on that gown and wearing the ring. You may have the most grand wedding in the world, the most beautiful moments captured on camera, the prettiest gown no one have ever worn. But these are not happiness that belongs to you forever. It’s only a moment of happiness that you own and it’s just for that tiny bit of fraction in your life span.
The real life begins after you undress that gown. Living together with someone whom you have not been living with since the day you were born now lives with you. Besides your family, now you have two families. You upgraded and become owner of a house, you shoulder more financial burdens, you have more commitments, and I really mean lifelong commitments. You live with the bad habits of your other half and live with greater tolerance. You quarrel with that person and sleep next to him/her every day. You wonder if he/she has been cheating behind you when you see some cheesy smses from his/her phone. Does a marriage make you feel more secure or insecure?
If you think life is like a bed of roses, yes you are right. There bound to have thorn along the way that pricks and wake us up from dreams.
Happiness belongs to you if you still have that someone who loves you when you are in your death bed, you certainly own happiness but you cant say you are fortunate or blessed once you get married. The journey has a long way to go, it is just a beginning of another phase, another challenge and it really depends on both willing parties to really be committed and to go through all together, regardless.
3 comments:
hey darling....... i like ur post. it's so true.........
From what I interpretted from the suicide cum murder of the husband and kids boils down to a Man's tendency to bottle up their feelings.
Man tends to have difficulty really expressing what they mean. They may be afraid of angering the woman. We are afraid that by expressing our trouble, we would be seen as not strong enough to take up challenges.
At this age, both sexes seek equality. But are they able to accept this inevitably result in 'power struggle'.
Penguine Daddy drama is depicting a growing trend of househusbands. Like it or not, the trend will be increasing. The problem now is that our society is going through this change where alot of people cannot accept it, and result in alot of divorce or family problems.
It's a heartening problem and I do hope couples are able to walk through changes in life as well as changes in each other.
You know what? I used to think about cheating husbands quite abit. But now I choose to just enjoy the moment of being together. Whether things turned out good or bad, time was still spent together. So why not just enjoy for the moment?
No point thinking so much, because nothing is for certain. Just calculate the risks, ok, and off you go!
Good luck in the voyage of life (not only marriage I realise!)!
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