Is love, everything?

Slept ard 4am, waking up at 9am. Sitting at my sofa, I thought about yesterday evening. Friend msned me in the same night asking if CJ (my so call secondary school hood sweetheart LOL!) and I are together again? What do they mean by "together AGAIN?" Well, do we behave like a couple?! Our "relationship" back then was in the name of it only. Not even holding hands. He was always seen hiding behind that tree or pillar, looking at me while I chat with my friend in the canteen. Sweet.......its those innocent love we had for each other back then. Things were so much simpler when we are young. Anyway, I seem to be always in suspect of starting a new relationship whenever I speak and chat with guys. Or they just cannot get over the secondary sch past?

Must I always be in a relationship? Being single miu is abnormal???? Gosh, its always this they are interested. But, yes, CJ and I has always been in contact, we go out together, watch movie, I confide in him (sometimes), we go shopping together, help him chose shirts. Thats all. He is attached liow lah! If we should be together, we would have been long ago.

Anyway, was chatting with CJ about relationships. Apparently, the wedded couple have known each other for 10 years. I never realize it has been for so long they are together!!! Time flies when I am blind.

And they are not the only couple around me that has such long marathon relationship. I know another couple friend, who has been together since my secondary sch days, so they have been together for say 14 or 15 years? And only recently, they have decided to tie the knot in coming Nov. It was amazing, commented CJ. Sad to say, yes I agree such marathon relationships seem to have nearing an extinction. Perhaps relationships nowadays around us have been too short lived that we see marathon ones as saints and goddess. But they do happen. They are real. Just that it does not happen to everyone of us.

Being in a courtship, whether its 1 year, or 10 years, does it really matter? How many stays thru in a marriage and till they aged and die? You may have stayed in courtship for 20 years, but in marriage for 1mth. You have have stayed in courtship for 1mth, but in marriage for a lifetime. So does time really matters?

So if time is not a factor here, what keeps a couple together? Was it only love? No. Feeling is an instant attraction.

Its commitment, communication, its accepting the person for what he or she is, wholesomely. Its tolerance of a person that he or she is perfect. Being able to stay together in the same house for a lifetime, a lot of tolerance is needed. Sometimes, we cannot even give ways to our sibling's daily habits but tolerance and patience helps to make all of us stays together under in the same roof throughout the years. And so, such tolerance and patience should be apply in every relationship as well. It is most necessary especially when two complete strangers with no kinship relation, meet and decide to build a home together.

Besides seeing the good points, we should also accept the fact that no one is perfect. Anyway, its there perfect person in the 1st place?!?!?!?!?!? It's about adapting to each other's daily habits. It's about being not seeking perfection.

So, ppl, everytime, you see someone you like, look at the imperfection first. If you can accept all the imperfection, the rest are bonus. Love and romance is just the decoration that add sparks to the everyday you spend together with your loved one. Get the mindset right and be practical. :)